To Wean Breastfeeding Or Not To Wean, That Is The Question??

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The hardest question you will have to answer is when should I wean my child off breastfeeding?

There isn’t a perfect time. But, the good news is the response to that question is not in social media, or from your husband, baby, friends, or your mother.

You get to make that decision on your own, and you will know when you are ready. Those two mountains sitting on your chest belong to you. You were given a gift to feed an innocent baby and nourish them.

Blessed is an understatement, but it’s sometimes time to shut the shop up and be yourself again.

Remember that’s ok. Don’t feel guilty, don’t cry, and don’t feel like your a bad mother.Don’t feel judged because you may be judged, and don’t let anyone in the outside world bring you to feel you didn’t do your breastfeeding duty.

I did a year, and in that year, it was the hardest thing I have ever done. I had to learn, and man did I have to learn. I was a fish out of the water the first time I stuck my nipple in my daughters mouth. I was trying and trying, and nothing was coming out. I was frustrated, and she was frustrated.

But by the time she turned one years old, we were experts. We had our groove, and life was easy just to stick my boob in her mouth for food.

Let’s be honest I was a cow, a milk machine, and squirting milk into a mouth wasn’t pretty all the time.

I wanted myself back, and I decided a year was when I was done.

But, how do you stop? The months rolled by fast, and one year was creeping. I read articles and books, plus got tons of advice on social media.

The real question wasn’t how to stop the milk from coming; it was how do I stop feeding my child?

I went to my daughters first year doctor’s check up. I had my whole “stop breastfeeding speech” in my head as I was sitting in the chair in the room waiting to tell the doctor. I felt like I had a plan. A plan to cut out certain times of the day. I would only feed her in the morning and at night. Every other part of the day I was going to “wean” off.

I told him my plan. He cut me off and looked straight at me and gushed words I don’t know if I was ready to hear. He said “cut her off cold turkey” you are not fair by telling her it’s ok to have it now but not later. He put it into terms of how would you like that?

Yikes, my heart skipped a beat, and my stomach was in knots. My plan was shoved out the door, and I was not to just stop feeding my baby?

Now making the decision to stop breastfeeding was my own. But going about it, I needed advice.

I was driving home, and I had to talk to myself to ramp me up to just do it.

He was right; it would be easier just to be done with it.

I went home and gave my daughter her first milk bottle. She loved it. She almost downed it and slurped her way to the bottom. That was my answer. She was ready, and I just needed to come to terms with it.

IMG_2131That next day I stopped breastfeeding. I never looked back.

But I did sit on the couch with frozen peas and my boobs in a sports bra. I also had boobs bigger than I will ever see in my lifetime. I spent nap time sitting in the warm shower with water spraying on my enormous boobs all while squirting milk out to relieve the pain.

After ten days or so, I had no milk. I was dried up. But my daughter was moved on and no longer dependent on me for food.

We officially weaned, and it has now been a year.

Yes, my weaning story was pretty easy.

Take control of your breastfeeding story. It’s nobody’s story but your own. So don’t feel like you need to do a certain amount of time. It’s your time and your boobs.

Take your boobs back when your ready to have them back.

  • Alexis
    April 5, 2016

    “it’s sometimes time to shut the shop and be yourself again” Amen! This is exactly what motivated me to wean. Not my daughter, not my husband, not anyone but me and my overwhelming desire to have my effing body back. I wish my weaning story was as easy as yours cause my tiny human didn’t guzzle milk so easily. She swatted that shit from my face and yelled boob. We had to do a gradual process and I pumped to give her a milk/breast combo bottle until she decided she was cool with drinking cow instead of mama. And now she’s 20 months old and still drinking milk from a bottle ? I’m stalling on weaning off the bottle cause that girl is a hot mess and makes every transition difficult. Thank you for sharing your story. I think more mamas need to speak the truth about breastfeeding NOT being rainbows and butterflies. The more of us that share, the more validated other mamas with a similar struggle will feel! Thank you, thank you!

    • Mama Megan
      April 5, 2016

      LOVE your comment. More so because we all have our own version of weaning. Whether it’s easy or not, it’s our choice to stop. So many mama’s look to what they should or shouldn’t do. Love your breastfeeding/weaning story! I was lucky with weaning, but now I’m stuggling with bedtime, ARGH! Always something….

  • Alexis
    April 5, 2016

    I also wrote some ramblings about weaning:

  • Abbie
    April 6, 2016

    Even though I just wrote a similar article, I needed to hear this!! Thank you for sharing it. Going through weaning right now and it is hard on us mommas. Rock on, friend!

    • Mama Megan
      April 6, 2016

      It’s very hard! I hope it’s an easy process for you and the babes!! xoxo

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