My name is Shirri Stringfellow. I am a 25 year old stay at home mother trying to find her place in the world.. So far I’ve found it with blogging.
I was blessed with my first born in 2011 and while it was a very hectic time in my life, it was a blessing in disguise. Wyatt was given to me on March 1, 2011.
I was in a downhill relationship and things weren’t looking up. I doubted everything I had in front of me, everything except my little boy. When Wyatt was 9 months old I packed up everything we had and decided to make our own life great, I took matters into my own hands. I was a full time working mother until I met my saving grace.
In January 2013 I crossed the path of a wonderful man who is now my husband. He took in my sweet Wyatt in as his own and we never looked back. We made a home together and 6 months later we were married, when you know, you know!
After we officially tied the knot we were ready to add another child into the mix. After months of trying we gave up. It had seemed to be impossible.. We were young and healthy but I had pre cancerous cells lining my cervix without my knowledge… Que the breakdown and the emotions that come with feeling broken. We were happily married, stable, and blessed in every other aspect of life, so we decided to leave the table while we were still ahead.
The Lord sure does work in mysterious ways y’all.. 3 months later we were blessed with a faint line!
October 18, 2014 we welcomed our little Westin into the world. The memories of that day still fill my heart with so much joy. My husband, crying tears of joy, my cheeks sore from smiling so much, and Wyatt, pacing around the room, not expecting this little baby to come home with us.This was how it was meant to be, this is what having a family is all about.
Today we are, dare I say it, FINALLY getting the hang of having 2 kids. Wyatt, my 5 year old now, is the biggest helper and he loves his brother to pieces. Westin, now 18 months, is growing and thriving and for that I am grateful.
As for my husband and I, we’ve gone down scary roads, parenting has taken its toll on us, and sometimes we wonder if were giving it our all. However, when we ran into each other that cold night in January we picked each other up and helped each other fly. As long as he’s by my side I can conquer all.
I cannot imagine my life without my boys, they are all I need and all I live for. And I couldn’t have gotten this blessed without the man upstairs watching out for me. God gave me this life, and for that I am eternally grateful.
He never gave me any doubt whatsoever. I actually told him I had a son the first night we met, to which he replied “I’m not going anywhere if thats what you mean.” It all came second nature to him it seemed, he was a family man before we even met.
Having a hard time getting pregnant is all too common. Describe in three words what you were feeling at the time and define?
I felt broken. Figuratively and literally. Here I was, almost 23 years old, wanting nothing more than to give this man a child, and I couldn’t. I felt like I was robing him of his own child. When in reality my son and I were all he ever really needed at the time.
What advice would you give to someone struggling to get pregnant?
Just let God take over. Magic happens when you stop trying and stop stressing yourself out over something you can’t control. Literally a month after we “gave up”, we were pregnant. I think stress has a lot to do with conceiving, at least in our situation anyway!
How has parenting taken a toll on you and your husband?
We get lost in being parents that we sometimes forget to be husband and wife. This is a huge thing I’m trying to overcome in my life right now. I have to be a wife first and a mom second. When I’m not a wife its hard for my husband to be my husband.
Surprisingly we don’t have many. When my husband came into our lives my sons biological had one foot out the door, and eventually he bailed and we kept on living life. I don’t see my husband as Wyatt’s step father, and Wyatt doesn’t know any different, he’s called him Daddy since he was 2. My husband cares for him as if his blood is running through Wyatt. I don’t see us as a blended family, and for that I am grateful.
Now that you have told the Mother Effin Truth, who do you want to nominate to tell their story as a mother? And why?
I’d love to nominate Leslie Weesner at Little Boys And Lattes because she’s got a heart of gold and she’s much a mom boss when it comes to her home business. She is so inspiring.
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