I’m A Fake Mom

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Fake is far from the truth, at least in my eyes. I’m as real as you get.

I wash clothes, dishes, and babies butts all day. I cook breakfast, lunch, and dinner every day. I listen to complaints, questions, and whines morning to night. That’s my definition for the word “mom”.

So as you all know I’m a stepmom. Stepmoms don’t get recognized very often. We don’t get the high fives after a big win; we don’t get the thank you’s all the time, and we get labeled as second best.

We have all signed up for this role, and even though some days are rougher, we just roll with the punches.

If you are a stepmom, you have or will hear “your not my real mom” at some point. My point happened this last week. They think the words will stab you in the heart, and guess what they are right.

I never want to be his mom, but I want to be recognized as a mom. I do the role but get no credit.

IMG_5346So the other day, I heard the words “you are a fake mom,” well that’s a new one. Those words stab me more because fake isn’t a word I like nor feel like I demonstrate. I let it roll off my back, but then the words kept coming out of his mouth.

The good news is; we kicked those words to the curb. We heard from a very wise man to inform my kiddo that yes I’m not his “real” mom but one thing I am is his parent.

Hallelujah to the brilliant man that summed up what I was looking for. Just that one word described who I was on the daily, and who I wanted to be for Ethan.

I don’t want to be his mom, stepmom, or a friend. I want to be his parent. A parent who shows him the ropes, tells him to say his manners, makes him brush his teeth, and hugs him at night, and to tell him I’m proud of him.

So I’m upgraded from a fake mom to a parent in just one email.

Man words can either hurt or heal the heart.

12 Comments
  • Stephanie
    October 14, 2015

    You are doing an amazing job as parent. Being consistent, caring and compassionate. You don’t have an easy job, but definitely handle it like a boss 🙂

    • Mama Megan
      October 14, 2015

      Aww thanks sweetie! It’s not easy, but very rewarding at times!

  • Allie T
    October 14, 2015

    You are a WONDERFUL MOM, PARENT AND FRIEND! Keep up the good work!!!

    • Mama Megan
      October 14, 2015

      Thank you!!

  • Tabatha
    October 14, 2015

    Thank you thank you thank you for this!

    • Mama Megan
      October 14, 2015

      You are SO welcome!

  • Krista
    October 15, 2015

    I love that you recognize that you are his parent and are embracing it!! He will recognize one day all that you have done for him and how much you have been there for him. Good job Megan!

    • Mama Megan
      October 15, 2015

      Thanks!! Oh I’m all in, and love every minute! I keep telling myself that, and I know he will one day.

  • Nicolette
    October 15, 2015

    We don’t have to love them… We choose to. Ethan is so lucky to have you. You are an amazing parent and mom and friend and person!

    • Mama Megan
      October 15, 2015

      You are right, and I choose to love him. Thanks for the sweet words.

  • Michelle Hurst
    April 28, 2016

    I was called a fake mom last week as well! Broke me in two! I have had these kids for so long and they live with me full time. It took some talking and when I explained to my seven year old step daughter that I would never think of her as my fake daughter and my daughter as my real daughter, I think she finally got it. This is a tough gig.

    • Mama Megan
      April 28, 2016

      My exact words to my stepson! It’s soooo hard, and it has it’s up hill battles. But then again being a parent in general is a battle at times!

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